Make your Bucket List: The one with B.L., Salsa and Me

Life’s just one, whats the point in living without attempting each and every crazy (physically non-harmful) thing you wish to do, and that too when you are young? This principle defines my life in the recent times

Inspired by the movie Bucket list, I decided to make one myself. After all, its never too late to try the things you have always wanted to try. Its just this one life that I have got.

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First step, make the bucket list. A constantly update list, but here are the current significant entries, in no particular order:

  • Sky Diving
  • Para gliding (2012 May)
  • Para Sailing (2006 July)
  • Bungee Jumping
  • Under Sea Walking (2006 July)
  • Conquering Mount Fuji (12,389 ft)
  • Jump from a tall tower hanging on a rope (2006 July)
  • Trekking to the top of Machu Pichu
  • Ski through the advanced level slopes
  • Learn Japanese language
  • Dancing (2012 March)
  • Scuba diving
  • Take a ride on a fighter jet
  • Driving at speeds over 180kph

As an attempt to fulfill the entries in my bucket list, Bungee Jumping in planned for next week and have started learning Salsa Dance at a club in Seoul. I was so apprehensive of dancing, given that I consider myself to be not-suitable-for-dancing kind, but hey, all it takes is courage and a li’l practice. Went for a few classes and this is what I have learned so far. It is not as difficult to learn as break dance and stuff, especially because dances like Salsa and Swing does not depend on how well you can twist and move your entire body, rather, it just depends on how well you can adapt your feet movements to the rhythm in the music. Check out some basic salsa steps to know what I am talking about.

The best thing about dancing is the electric atmosphere and the energy you get from it. You have to be there to see what I am talking about. Its an entirely different universe behind that door (Man, the sound proofing must be great for the walls there.) Girls and guys sitting around and every song, the guy goes to a girl of her choice and asks her hand for the dance and its called Holding.

The basic etiquette is: A girl (called follower) can deny a guy (called leader) once for one song, if she is tired but its not polite to deny the same guy twice, the same day. If a girl asks a guy for holding, a guy cannot even deny once (why would he?) 🙂 But as far as I have seen, unless someone is really really tired, they dont deny the request from the person requesting the holding. Overall, its fun and you get to meet so many new and interesting people, outside of work-o-sphere, which is something people lack when they are in the R&D field.

We are going on a dance workshop this weekend. A barbecue, socializing and all night dancing at a pension in the hills. Everyone is eagerly looking forward to it I am sure. So am I.

Will attempt on the remaining entries in the bucket list when the opportunity comes. In the meantime, I am busy adding other interesting items to this bucket list.

Why don’t you make your bucket list today? List some interesting things you have always wanted to do, but never had the guts/chance to do it. Let me know if you think I should include them in mine as well.

These Little Things That Matter…

You know.. Sometimes these little things leave a big impression in your mind.. It could even change your outlook about something.. Something like that happened today when I was coming back home from work..

It was about 9:30 pm and eager to get home, I was riding my bicycle at not slow speed through the main road.. The pedestrian light was green and as normal, I made a swift turn to cross the road.. There was a taxi coming from behind and I assume that it would stop and unfortunately it did not.. Avoiding a collision, I exclaimed to the driver “Cant you see the red light?”.. He moved on and I crossed the road.. I saw him stopping a few meters in front of me and lowered the window on the side I was coming from behind..

Predisposed to the sureness that he was about to shout back at me, I prepared my mind for a small verbal battle, as it would have been the case as per my experience back home.. When he stopped in the middle of the road waiting for me to come parallel to him, I got ready with another phrase “Why dont you watch where you are going atleast when the light is red?”.. When the glass was lowered, I saw that the driver was a 50 something man and he gently bowed to me with his palm up, signalling he was sorry for what happened before.. I was touched.. This was NOT what I had expected.. Actually this was the opposite of what I had expected..

Shame on me for the predisposition.. Must do better the next time..

Hanlingo – A great place for cultural exchange in Korea

 

Click here to visit Hanlingo

I have been associated with this website since the late 2008, when it was introduced to me by a class mate of mine who was studying korean with me.. Since then, I have joined various meetups and even met the creator, Chuck, during one of the large scale meetup, organized at Korea university.

I have made numerous friends and even conducted one meetup involving participants from Suwon area. While there are 1000s of language exchange/cultural exchange websites in the world, there are a few factors which make Hanlingo far ahead when compared to others, especially in Korea.

 

1. The creator, Chuck, actively listens to our opinions and implements our feedbacks very promptly. I guess such a fact is quite important because, along with numerous other benefits, it helps us weed out imposters and help the website better day by day. Along the span of 2.5 years I have been associated with this website, I have seen many examples of prompt actions he has taken.

2. The chat window in the main page. While I dont use it personally a lot, I have seen a lot of people using it and asking language questions and getting the answers from people online. I guess that this is one of the important features that makes this website so helpful to make friends. One can ask a question in realtime and get the answers.

3. The users on the map. Hanlingo shows the users on the map based on the input they have given while registering. This is VERY helpful especially for people looking for getting friends/language exchange partners near them. Instead of using a basic search, one could directly go to the map and then check for the desired target friends based on sex, native language and distance. I find this feature quite unique and helpful.

4. Even though any other such website has a Forum, I guess that Hanlingo forum is quite resourceful as well.

5. Book Deals. While  I haven’t used this specific feature as much, I guess this is a one stop for all your book deals. It actually shows all the books available cheap (less than $10 a copy). I am planning to use this feature in the future, whenever I need to look for a good and cheap deal.

6. Meetups. One can organize meetups and define the place and date and put it up on the main page for others to sign up. This is something like Meetup.com but the best part is that unlike the Meetup website, when you need to pay some money to the website for making a meetup, Chuck encourages interaction by making this feature free of cost.

While I can go on and on about the good things about the website, I would say that its only complete when you actually experience it yourself. While everything on this website is not free, some of the important, essential features are kept free for use so that the users can use them in developing long term friendships and learn more about different cultures. There are members from various parts of the globe as well.. So even though its mainly used by Korean users and people living in Korea, there is a global touch as well.

I have been here for quite a long time and have made some good friends during that time. I hope that you do too.

Click here for accessing the website: http://www.hanlingo.com

Something on relationships and Psychology

These days I am very much into Psychology and Relationships..
I don’t know since when… But, analyzing people and events have always been my hobby/habit.. I have learnt a lot about people and “how they think” and “why they do what they do” etc thanks to various people I had come across with.. I take this as an opportunity of personal growth as well..

Anyway, I came across an article by a Psychologist named Al Turtle. He has given a detailed explanations of various stages in a relationship and has tried to define what he calls the path from temporary “Romantic Love” (which every couple experiences due to the drug called phenylethylalamin, excreted by our brain) to “Vintage Love” (thanks to endorphins).. He also aims to create what he calls a “Relationship Map”, which is aimed at assisting you in analyzing where you are in a relationship, just like a regular geographical map..

I recommend this article to those who are in a relationship.. It would surely make you understand why things happen the way they are…

NOTE: This article is VERY long.. So I would advice people with no interest in Psychology against reading this…

Without any further ado, here you go..

http://al.turtlecounseling.com/blog/Relationships/MapofRelationships/_archives/2006/1/31/1738306.html

 

Quote:  “And so with all five components of the Biological Dream we have:  the human brain desires a community, a reliable connection with other humans who express their differences freely, can act independently, can reach their full unique productive potential and where there is safety. And this, I believe, is hard-wired in all humans.  We come into the world with these five  needs and expectations: Safety, Reliable Membership, Diversity, Autonomy, Purpose.”

Photo: Beauty of the Night

Had my presentation today..  Went quite well.. Going to a place to Taroko tomorrow. It is a gorge and quite famous in Taiwan.. Since there are none of this kind in Korea/India, along with some Korean friends I met at the conference, I thought of visiting there tomorrow. Its about 4 hours from Taipei (one way).. Looking forward to it.. Will post on the trip, once I am back..

In the meantime, check out Beauty of the Night. It was due for some time..

Adios!